I have felt, and still feel the same way a lot of time, Abi. It will be two years in July since my daughter was stillborn. I too feel guilty for being here sometimes. I keep thinking "it should be her, not me". My heart is here for you, Abi, should you need a friend.
I have been told to live for my daughter. Doing something in h more…
it makes total sense you cant spend your life in the dark its not what they would have wanted. that spark of light will grow but the pain will always be there the memorys will still grow strong and the guilt will not go even though there is no real guilt.
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I wish I could say something that would make you go "Oh, that's it, I won't feel guilty..." but I never managed to do that with myself and my Dad so why try and BS you into doing it?
The thing is though... the guilt does need to be shackled a bit, chain it in the corner and let it talk spa more…
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In response to: "Nearly a year ...." 290 days old
by RGray1981 Pro
I have felt, and still feel the same way a lot of time, Abi. It will be two years in July since my daughter was stillborn. I too feel guilty for being here sometimes. I keep thinking "it should be her, not me". My heart is here for you, Abi, should you need a friend.
I have been told to live for my daughter. Doing something in h more…
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by lyndlj [Member]
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In response to: "Nearly a year ...." 317 days old
by lyndlj [Member]
The gilt is a natral part of the process hun, you are getting there xx more…
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by Mrs_F [Member]
Hugs.
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by sminchin Pro
Yes
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by boredrich [Member]
it makes total sense you cant spend your life in the dark its not what they would have wanted. that spark of light will grow but the pain will always be there the memorys will still grow strong and the guilt will not go even though there is no real guilt.
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In response to: "Nearly a year ...." 318 days old
by subville [Member]
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In response to: "April, The second of Two" 318 days old
by Miza-T [Member]
First time I read this blog.
First time I read your story.
Just want to give you a big hug.
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by Old-Nick Pro
It does. more…
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by Miza-T [Member]
Yes, totally.
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by ajnspencer Pro
God yes, it makes complete sense.
I wish I could say something that would make you go "Oh, that's it, I won't feel guilty..." but I never managed to do that with myself and my Dad so why try and BS you into doing it?
The thing is though... the guilt does need to be shackled a bit, chain it in the corner and let it talk spa more…
In response to: "Nearly a year ...." 318 days old
by Juzzzy [Member]
Completely.
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In response to: "Nearly a year ...." 318 days old
by lledeb [Member]
Time, so they say 'is a great healer.'
I dont think it means we have forgot just because we see a glimmer of light at the end of a seemingly endluss tunnel of darkness and pain.
There is no need for guilt just because your life goes on.
It isnt a situation I have been in personally, but I know several p more…
In response to: "Nearly a year ...." 318 days old
by rowtheboat [Member]
No guilt - for the love remains.
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by jenray Pro
Thanks, Chyna...GBHs...XXX more…
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by jenray Pro
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by jenray Pro
HLOL...I've posted this in the wrong blog...sorry...it's on the 2nd Jan...GBHs...XXX more…
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by SeasideMan Pro
I hope it all goes well, Jen. Towards the end of next month, isn't it?
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by Chyna_Doll [Member]
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by Decado66 Pro
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by loveslifeloveschocolate [Member]
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by Juzzzy [Member]
As always, as ever x more…
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by louisa-outram Pro
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by Old-Nick Pro
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by QueeneMab [Member]
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by deleted user [Visitor]
Bless your daughter and Happy Birthday to her. xxx more…
In response to: "6 Months" 425 days old
by Juzzzy [Member]
I know all about those two different people.
Fear not - you eventually split into about eight, and they all get to share that shit around.
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In response to: "6 Months" 426 days old
by lyndlj [Member]
As you say such a short time but feels like so long.
We all have our way of coping, and you seem to be doing just that, no cliches from me hun, we are here when/if you need us more…
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by deleted user [Visitor]
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by Mrs_F [Member]
I like both of them and I've missed them a bit. One day they will be able to get together again I think, but it will take time.
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