Nearly a year ....

No guilt - for the love remains.

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Time, so they say 'is a great healer.'


I dont think it means we have forgot just because we see a glimmer of light at the end of a seemingly endluss tunnel of darkness and pain.

There is no need for guilt just because your life goes on.

It isnt a situation I have been in personally, but I know several people who jave, and though they never forget, they are able to get on with a life that needs to be lived.

All the best to you for 2009.

xx

Completely.

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God yes, it makes complete sense.

I wish I could say something that would make you go "Oh, that's it, I won't feel guilty..." but I never managed to do that with myself and my Dad so why try and BS you into doing it?

The thing is though... the guilt does need to be shackled a bit, chain it in the corner and let it talk sparingly, don't let it be in charge. (I could make a comment here but... different time, different place)

The fact is it's right to find some happiness in a world after, however you'll never forget, never let new things drive him from your head and DEFINITELY not from your heart, that's a given.

But, it's also normal, healthy and logical to feel some guilt about it.

The guilt doesn't stop it being right though.

Yes, totally.


xx

It does.

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it makes total sense you cant spend your life in the dark its not what they would have wanted. that spark of light will grow but the pain will always be there the memorys will still grow strong and the guilt will not go even though there is no real guilt.
Hugs

Yes
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Hugs.

X

The gilt is a natral part of the process hun, you are getting there xx

I have felt, and still feel the same way a lot of time, Abi. It will be two years in July since my daughter was stillborn. I too feel guilty for being here sometimes. I keep thinking "it should be her, not me". My heart is here for you, Abi, should you need a friend.

I have been told to live for my daughter. Doing something in her name does help a bit as well.

Hugs,
Ryan