Some think that the loss is greater for the woman than the man, why? Can a Father not experience the grief of losing his child?
Sadly it is very often the case that many health care professionals forget about the father. He is often expected to be the one who holds things together, organising paperwork and informs the family while the mother is expected to become a wreck and not wish to see anyone.
I have lost count of how many excuses I came up with for not wanting to go out. Eventually the lies became second nature and I could fend off friends without having to think about it. I then sat alone in my house and sobbed and wondered who I'd got that I could turn to.
I spoke to my doctor about how I was feeling and all he could say was that it would pass. Helpful.
It never goes away but the days get easier to cope with. Until an anniversary of some sort comes up that is.
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It's sad that people don't appreciate a father's grief. Many years ago my neighbours' little boy died and I can still see the grief on his father's face.