For every one of us loss is a unique experience, no matter the age of the child.
I once heard someone say that the loss of a child who is very young is not as great as that of an older child. This is nonsense, from the minute it is announced there is to be a child those feelings grow and develop into the love that will be there to greet it when it is born.
Some think that the loss is greater for the woman than the man, why? Can a Father not experience the grief of losing his child?
There are so many things that greiving parents have to deal with, both Mother and Father, the world goes on turning in its normal cycle and others go on living their normal lives, but for you the world has changed and will never be the same again. How can these people go bustling about their daily business, how can you? Your world has become emptier, there is a hole that was once filled and now it is gone, your world has tilted, crashed, burned and when you pick up the pieces they are not all there.
But we learn, slowly, how to go on with our lives, how to live each day with the knowledge that something precious is gone and is alive only in our hearts, our memories, and the hearts and memories of those closest to us.
We learn how to go through the normal routines, how to 'put on a brave face' until we are living a semblence of a 'normal' life again.
Yet each of us have words that have not yet been said, thoughts that have not yet been voiced, feelings that we keep under wraps as we go through our daily business and chores.
Feel free to say them, voice them, shout them, here, or maybe just visit occasionally to know that there are others, like you, that find it hard to voice that which they feel inside.
You are not alone, we, are not alone anymore.
